A blogger who prides herself on teaching women how to date billionaires and be accepted into high society circles has shared the 10 moves you should never make if you want to appear elegant.
London-based Anna Bey, 33, who goes by the moniker ‘JetSetBabe’ online, shared the main things to avoid at all costs – including cracking your knuckles, posting provocative photographs online and speaking ‘carelessly’.
The Swedish founder of the School of Affluence also stressed the importance of confidence and dedication to your ‘personal brand’ in her latest vlog entry.
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Never dress inappropriately
London-based Anna Bey (pictured), 33, who goes by the moniker ‘JetSetBabe’ online, shared the main habits to avoid at all costs to appear elegant
‘Elegant ladies are not trying too hard,’ she explained. ‘They are not trying to sex it up as much as possible so they can get more eyeballs on them.
‘They don’t use these strategies as they don’t have to. They know their elegance will make them stand out. They know their elegance is their superpower – that it actually gives them the attention they want but most importantly gives them the right attention.’
Anna added: ‘Elegant ladies do not wear clothes that are too tight. They wear clothes where you can place two things between the garment and the body.
‘So that’s a good measuring stick if you are unsure about whether your dress is too tight or not.’
Never show a lack of confidence
The Swedish founder of the School of Affluence (pictured) shared the 10 things ‘elegant women’ should never do
‘Confidence is probably the main ingredient in elegance. Because no matter how well you dress or how well you speak, if you don’t execute anything with confidence then people don’t buy your dose of elegance,’ insisted Anna.
‘So it’s really important to have that right, which is why I teach students confidence and how to develop it, as it’s such an important ingredient that everyone must master if they want to have success in this journey.’
Do not have bad habits
‘Elegant ladies do not have certain ticks or bad habits. Cracking your fingers for example. Or cracking your neck or twirling your hair, or pulling your clothes all the time,’ Anna said.
‘It’s absolutely inelegant behaviour and ones that must be changed.
‘The more bad habits you have the less elegant you are going to appear. Things like cracking your fingers or neck is extremely unattractive behaviour full-stop.’
Never speak carelessly
Elegant ladies speak eloquently, according to the billionaire matchmaker. ‘They use the right words. They use the right phrases,’ she said.
‘They wouldn’t say “I’m going to the toilet” or “I’m going to the loo”, they would say “Excuse me”.
‘There is a particular elegant manner a woman would speak in, she doesn’t have to speak rigidly, but it’s about killing those bad habits in language.
‘No swearing – that’s a given. But also choosing the correct words for things and if she is a native speaker in the language she would use the correct grammar and avoid slang.’
Never upload provocative pictures online
‘I’m talking glamour shots, and provocative bikini poses,’ the billionaire matchmaker explained.
‘And I’m not saying this because I’m here to shame women. Absolutely not, there is nothing wrong with showing skin.
‘But if you are trying to be elegant and you want to have the branding of an elegant lady, then these kind of shots do not go hand-in-hand.’
Anna suggested that a classy bikini or swimwear picture in front of the sea would be fine, ‘but if you are there posing on the sand, touching yourself, and showing off your assets, then ladies, that’s not going to make you look elegant’.
Never chase men
Anna recommended that women should never chase men and instead offer only silent hints
‘Elegant ladies know they are high calibre women who don’t need to chase men,’ the blogger suggested.
‘Sure we can help men along the way with very silent and invisible hints, but we do not keep messaging them first or calling them or asking “can we meet”.
‘We stay put and if they’re interested and they propose it well, we might accept their invitation.’
Anna added: ‘Never sell yourself short.’
Never have aggressive body language
Never have bad posture
‘Elegant ladies would never slouch and walk around with a curved back or sit with a curved back,’ the elegance teacher explained.
‘Imagine, a lady has the honour of wearing this beautiful, expensive designer dress, then she’s sitting there as a hunchback.
‘How wrong is that? That is so out of place and reduces every single penny spent on that dress and ruins her image.’
Anna explained: ‘This can be anything from the tone of your voice, your gestures – maybe you’re grabbing things too harshly or when walking you stomp with your feet or when you open doors you’re kind of just slamming them open.
‘Having a very strong and aggressive presence is not doing you any favours when it comes to elegance.
‘You don’t have to be this little soft piece of cotton wool. But you do have to soften up if you’re prone to this sort of aggression.’
Never be desperate
‘Elegant ladies are never desperate – and I mean for anything,’ the Swedish blogger claimed.
‘We’re not desperate for men, for friendships, or networking or opportunities, or food or anything really. Because as soon as you start being desperate for things you are selling yourself short.
‘You have to always keep your head high and be focused on your goals, but you can never act with desperation.
‘As soon as you start sending that desperate vibe out to the universe, people pick it up and it’s not doing you a favour, it’s actually putting people off from you.
‘The chances of achieving your goal will be smaller as now you have desperate written all over you.’
In her latest vlog entry on her School of Affluence site, Anna (pictured) recommends always focusing on your goals
‘This one is probably the most important,’ Anna said.
‘You really have to think about every single detail and when you get those details right is when you’ll get success.
‘Elegant ladies, they are always careful with their reputation and their own personal brand.
‘Personal branding is like this big puzzle. You have to place them in the right directions and right places.’
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